Thank you for this Emma. I have applied following the link in this piece. A drawback is that I cannot include our baby’s father as he has since died. It made me wonder whether even to go ahead - but decided, in the end, that I would. As you say, the process itself is very emotional and brings up a lot of stuff 💗
Oh, gosh. I hadn’t realised it was back dated. But one of my pregnancy losses was very early and I don’t think even recorded with my GP (though I did have to attend the early pregnancy unit, so it’s possible it was recorded somewhere?) so I don’t think there’s any proof. It wouldn’t seem right to have a certificate for one but not the other. I’m not sure.
“I expect I will sometimes reach for it in quiet moments and reflect some more.” I’ve been reflecting that miscarriage ends so often with the moment you so painfully describe. It’s an incomplete ending. This document has the power to serve as a liminal moment; something ended - not just life but hopes, dreams and an imagined future. The document marks that end and says: This mattered. Much love Emma xxx
As soon as I read this week that I could apply for a baby loss certificate too I did so immediately. We lost our very much longed for baby Grace Rose in 2015, at the age of 40 it seems unlikely I would be able to give birth to my own child. I didn’t. So I chose to write about about her and published our book about our experience instead. For me having validation of our brief time together acknowledged is something I know I will treasure. Always remembered, never forgotten. Thank you for sharing your experience Emma 💕
Thank you for this Emma. I have applied following the link in this piece. A drawback is that I cannot include our baby’s father as he has since died. It made me wonder whether even to go ahead - but decided, in the end, that I would. As you say, the process itself is very emotional and brings up a lot of stuff 💗
Oh, gosh. I hadn’t realised it was back dated. But one of my pregnancy losses was very early and I don’t think even recorded with my GP (though I did have to attend the early pregnancy unit, so it’s possible it was recorded somewhere?) so I don’t think there’s any proof. It wouldn’t seem right to have a certificate for one but not the other. I’m not sure.
I’m really sorry for your loss. x
“I expect I will sometimes reach for it in quiet moments and reflect some more.” I’ve been reflecting that miscarriage ends so often with the moment you so painfully describe. It’s an incomplete ending. This document has the power to serve as a liminal moment; something ended - not just life but hopes, dreams and an imagined future. The document marks that end and says: This mattered. Much love Emma xxx
As soon as I read this week that I could apply for a baby loss certificate too I did so immediately. We lost our very much longed for baby Grace Rose in 2015, at the age of 40 it seems unlikely I would be able to give birth to my own child. I didn’t. So I chose to write about about her and published our book about our experience instead. For me having validation of our brief time together acknowledged is something I know I will treasure. Always remembered, never forgotten. Thank you for sharing your experience Emma 💕